surprise

So far, everything is going well but I admit to being a bit nervous at my age. I'm sure labor will be much harder to deal with after all these years plus I get worried about all the things that can go wrong at my age. I know there is higher risks of health problems with the baby, too, so the doctor will be doing more tests than with my other pregnancies.

CharliesMama

Not yet... I'm 39 now, I'll be 40 in a few months. That's why I'm hoping to conceive again soon, I feel like my time is limited and I really want a sibling for my son.

Mami

I'm over 40 and have put a stop on such delights. However, you are pregnant now and all I'd say is to live your days, one day at a time without worrying about outcomes that you have littlke or no control over. Relax yourself, follow your doctor's advice and just believe that you and your baby will be just fine. My prayers are with you.

MommyDearest

Apparently, 40 is today's 30 (or is it 25?!!) so you shouldn't worry! I think we take too much notice of what is the 'right' age for a woman to have a baby. After all, if it wasn't a good idea to be pregnant at 40, then you have to ask why Mother Nature gave woman the capability!

You go girl, and enjoy it!

CharliesMama

There are a lot of things about Mother Nature's design that I wonder "what???" I must say, I was scared by statistics with my first baby. Now that he is here and healthy, I worry less about my age, except that I will be old granny if my kids wait as long as I did!

babybump

I've know a couple of moms who didn't have their first until well into their late thirties. When the suddenly realized they wouldn't be in the boardroom forever and got on with the second part of "being sucessful". Relaxing and taking it easy and being healthy is all you can do. Oh, and enjoy it.

MommyDearest

Further to this conversation, I would add that a mum over 40 should always consider one thing: does she have a helpful partner? Even a new mum at the other end of the age scale (teenage) will discover being a new mum is exhausting and raising kids is really a job for two parents. Age doesn't really come into it but an older mom won't have the stamina of a younger mom and a younger mom will feel isolated from her friends going out and having fun - women of all ages need all the help they can get and a good partner is really best!

Obviously, sometimes it is unavoidable when a parent becomes a single parent through no choice, but a woman considering being a parent should first and foremost consider the child - no matter what her age she must be sure she has back up for the tiring road ahead of her.

Tiredmommy

I was in my late twenties when I gave birth and I was appalled at how tired I felt all the time, and then I started feeling really frustrated all time. Make sure you have the help you need.