Been TTC for 6 years now... married, blissfully happy, financially unsecure (hey, who's really secure anyway) but coping. Have a stressy job & know I need to calm down with that... BUT what do I do?

How do I keep walking round pretending everything is OK when EVERY single one of my friends apart from 1 has children or is expecting.

I don't want to be the statistical 1 in whatever that can't have a child.
We have been seeing the sub-fertility department of the hospital for over 2 years & are only now getting near to the top of the list for daily injections. Prolonged use of Clomid made me looney & ended up giving me an ovarian cyst.

My 1 friend who doesn't have kids has been trying with her husband for 6 months & has text me today to say she wants to meet me to tell me something. I KNOW it's that she's pregnant, and really - I am so happy for her cause she truly deserves it & will be the best Mum ever. But how am I supposed to keep smiling for everyone else when I am soooo sad?? anyone ever been in the same boat & have any advice??

I've never been in your boat. I never wanted children, and tried very hard not to have one. I would trade you my ability in a hot new york minute. I love my little man with every fiber of my being, but I wasn't stupid. I knew how much work it would be. I knew what kind of worries would come with a child. They were the kind of things I didn't want in my life.

I was so upset while I was pregnant, so unhappy, and I had a really, really hard time when he was born. Post pardum depression to the extreme. So I think I can empathize, in reverse.

I'm so sorry honey. I know resentment and anger and sadness can build up when everyone around you has the one single most precious thing in the world that you want and should just happen naturally. Don't ask yourself how to not feel it. Just feel it. Know where it is coming from. Take time to center yourself and find calm and peace. I know it's easier said than done when you are basically being denied a basic need.

I hope it happens for you soon. I really do.

Thank you for coming back to me.

I'm over myself a bit now... posted that thread when I was on a bit of a downer. It is hard whatever the fence you land on & think the grass always seens greener (& all thise other applicable sayings, ha, ha!).

It's nice just being able to pour my heart out & not have to pretend I am fine with my current infertile state. Hopefully modern medicine will help & one of these days I'll come & tell you all the news I'm desperate for - but I sincerely appreciate you coming back to me.

You take care & THANK YOU.

MSK XXX

Wow, alot there. And ovarian cysts can relate with. Why took so long for myself to have my second. :(

That must be a horrible feeling! I really feel for you. It's probably something you were waiting your whole life for.

I have a couple of friends who really struggle with not being able to have a child, or more, depending on their situations. It's so hard for them to see everyone they love having what they want so badly.

My fingers are crossed for you and I'll whisper a wish for you.