Is there absolutely ANYTHING that would make you 'disown' your child? I've known/heard of instances that were prompted by an admission of homosexuality/lesbianism, early pregnancies, promiscuous lifestyles and so on.
LoveMaGirl
06-01-08, 09:19 PM
I don't think I could honestly ever disown my girl. Nothing she could do or say to me would make me do that, I love her too much.
That said, four years of rejection and total ignoring, I would give up trying. However, I would turn around in a heart beat if the child came back.
alexis
06-01-08, 09:31 PM
Nope not ever, there is no way I could do this. I have seen it done many times over and always for a dumb reason. I just dont see any reason someone would do this (no offense to anyone reading this).
Don Dada
06-14-08, 05:12 PM
I don't know how I'd feel about my child if he/she were to become a murderer, a terrorist or anything like that. I'm sure I'd be wondering what I did wrong in his/her upbringing..but if I was relentless in my efforts to chnage those early behaviours and the child rejected my interventions, then maybe...oh, I don't know...
momofteens
06-14-08, 06:44 PM
Nothing, and I mean nothing, could make me disown my kids. No matter what they do, what they are, or how heinous the crime, they will always be my child. I will always love them. That does not, in any way, mean I need to like what they do, or even like them. But no matter what the situation, they'll always be my children and therefore loved by me.
Now I also believe in turning a child in if he's wanted by the police, or other things like that. But I'd be doing it out of love, not disowning them.
Mystery
06-15-08, 01:51 AM
I think that there is a difference between giving up and disowning. I could never disown my kid, but at the same time, I might step back to save myself some hurt.
Common Sense
06-15-08, 06:46 PM
Unless my kids became murderers or committed some other serious crime, I doubt I would even consider such a strong thing as disowning them.
When one of your kids commits something hideous, I could understand how thoughts of disowning them may be on your mind.
For everything else, you need to love them for who they are.
Your kid is gay or can't get a good job? That is all the more reason to be supportive for them if you ask me.
Being gay isn't easy for them, nor is getting a good job sometimes.
You have to support them through the tough times.
VTGal
06-18-08, 06:35 AM
I could never disown my children. The examples you mention above would require a lot of support on my part, and I would be there for them as much as they needed me.
CA_Sarah
06-18-08, 10:55 PM
I could never disown my children, no matter what. I would feel terrible if they did something awful, I'd be sickened and angry, but I could never just disown my child.
and certainly not for anything like being gay or getting pregnant as a teen... that's just making a difficult situation harder.
Common Sense
06-19-08, 09:59 PM
I can understand how we all can get really angry or frustrated with our kids sometimes, but they are still counting on us for support and love, just as we would have wanted from our parents.
The world is a dangerous and scary place, and misfortune can often even strike family and friends.
nina
08-26-08, 01:39 PM
I can't think of anything that would cause me to disown either of my kids, not even if they told me they were gay. I am very hard against homosexualism but I would still love them. Although I would tell them they could not sleep in the same room together in my house. And yes, I would turn them in to the police if they were wanted for some awful crime. Because I do love them.