I have my two, and they are rough on me, coupled with my depression this time around. We plan on having one more, but I don't know when, just that I am not ready yet. We're moving in August, and hope to buy a home in early 09... so I know now is not a good time. and I want my depression under control first.

But the other day, on a photography forum I chat on, there was a pregnant moms roll call and I felt the tiniest pang of sadness that I wasn't on it. This is "new" to me: after my daughter was born I had major baby fever starting when she was 8 months or so, but we waited until she ws 13 mos to try to conceive. My son is now 13 months, and I really have little interest.

I am sure when the time is right you will know and sometimes it happens sooner than we think. Thats what happened with me this past time as we were not 100% on the right time. :)

I think you will keep putting it off for reasons best known to you and yours for as long as you think you should - or unless the decision is made for you. It happens. However, I think you should concieve only when you've mutually agreed to and you are both ready in all aspects for the new one.

I think you should at least wait until you are over your depression, hopefully it doesn't take too long to be corrected. Having 3 babies in a depressed state can become even more depressing.