We had a horrible time when my son was three to get him to EVER leave grandma's house. He would always cry to want to stay. Plus, my wonderful mother-in-law (bless her), would get a sad look on her face as well, rather than encouraging him to be a "big boy" and get in the car. We tried for a year to get g-ma to be backing us up as parents, rather than siding with her grandson. This caused a lot of tension in our family, and I'm concerned that other families may have the same problem. Anyone find a better way to handle this?

Was your son just there for visits for fun or because she was caring for him on a regular basis. I find alot of grandparents who fill in as babysitting/daycare often bond closer and have a harder time letting the grandchildren go. It is important to put your foot down though as you are the parents. Its natural for kids to not want to leave the grandparents house, as grandparents are more fun and allow more things to slip which is ok if you're not there all the time. If you rely on them for daycare and can't change if they won't follow your rules there's not much you can do.