rose
07-09-07, 01:42 PM
Some of the best tips I have found were online. I don't have many family members (female) that I could ask these questions too, and now that my own daughter is a mother, I am able to pass some along to her as well. :)
Prepare as much as you can ahead of time - they always say "O shes just nesting", but if you think about it, the more you can get done before the baby arrives, the easier it will be later down the road.
Ask for & and accept - I had some help with my mother during my first child, then she figured I knew what I was doing, the father went back to work, and it took quite sometime to work out on my own, lucky I had my best friend that lived afew doors down, and she was my rock when I needed it. :)
Let the machine get it - don't worry about who is calling you, more than likely it is a telemarketer or someone just wanting to leave a quick "Congrats on the baby", you don't need to return these calls right away, people expect you to be busy and tired, let the machine do its job.
Accept visitors only when you're ready - no one wants to be bombarded with visitors right after they have given birth, you are still getting used to the idea of a new baby in the house (your first or not), and still no matter how much you prepare, still working to sort the last bits and pieces out. Accept company when it is fitting for you, the last thing you want to do is fall asleep in the middle of company, and let me tell you - I have! :D
Rest up - rest as much as you can, let the laundry go for a day if you can, nothing is more important than proper rest - you will be busy for the next 18 years, get some sleep now while you still can.
Know your limits - don't overwork yourself, it is never good being the only person home, overworked and extremely tired caring for a little one.
Trust your gut - if something doest feel right, more than likely it isn't. Mothers instinct kicks on quick, you will get used to it. And if you ever question your gut, check with another just in case. They dont call it Mothers instinct for nothing! :)
Prepare as much as you can ahead of time - they always say "O shes just nesting", but if you think about it, the more you can get done before the baby arrives, the easier it will be later down the road.
Ask for & and accept - I had some help with my mother during my first child, then she figured I knew what I was doing, the father went back to work, and it took quite sometime to work out on my own, lucky I had my best friend that lived afew doors down, and she was my rock when I needed it. :)
Let the machine get it - don't worry about who is calling you, more than likely it is a telemarketer or someone just wanting to leave a quick "Congrats on the baby", you don't need to return these calls right away, people expect you to be busy and tired, let the machine do its job.
Accept visitors only when you're ready - no one wants to be bombarded with visitors right after they have given birth, you are still getting used to the idea of a new baby in the house (your first or not), and still no matter how much you prepare, still working to sort the last bits and pieces out. Accept company when it is fitting for you, the last thing you want to do is fall asleep in the middle of company, and let me tell you - I have! :D
Rest up - rest as much as you can, let the laundry go for a day if you can, nothing is more important than proper rest - you will be busy for the next 18 years, get some sleep now while you still can.
Know your limits - don't overwork yourself, it is never good being the only person home, overworked and extremely tired caring for a little one.
Trust your gut - if something doest feel right, more than likely it isn't. Mothers instinct kicks on quick, you will get used to it. And if you ever question your gut, check with another just in case. They dont call it Mothers instinct for nothing! :)