After already mostly raising three kids, to have another now is distinctly odd for us. My husband and I were discussing how life is going to change yet again for us. I know I don't have the energy I did when I had my first child, that's for sure. I'm a bit concerned that it will put a strain on our relationship when we have this new baby. After all, we're used to kids that pretty well fend for themselves at this point (as to dressing, bathing, etc, etc). Any tips or advice on how to make this smoother?

I guess the only way you two can look at is as something so precious that you created together, and that your giving it a chance at a beautiful life, which is a gift for any child.

I mean having another baby is never going to be smooth, there will always be troubles especially after you have had three and are feeling down.

I am sure many go through this no matter what the age of the first time they became parents, the most recent last child or the age they are thinking about doing it. Make sure you are set with finances and able to tend to this child as needed before hand and know that what your feeling is normal.