I've tried to talk to my boyfriend all day to figure out what we're going to do, but after I told him I was pregnant he won't answer his cell at all. I thought for sure he'd want to be there for me, but I'm afraid I'm going to end up being a single mom. I really think we should probably get married, but he won't even talk to me right now. Maybe he just needs some time? Hopefully.

Here is my view. Just because you are pregnant by him DOES NOT mean you have to get married to him. That is more trouble than it's worth. Just assure him that he is the father of this child and that he is the one that is to be in charge.

Being pregnant and getting married are totally two different issues. The pregnancy is the more pressing issue. Your health and that of the child's, well being comes first and if getting married causes more stress than is needed you need to drop if for now.

You may have an idea of the more mature and responsible thing to do and he doesn't. He may need some time to think about it. Whatever the decision has to be accepted even if it wasn't the decision that you may have hoped for.

DCMerkle

Now he's telling me that I have to prove it's his baby. He's being really mean. He doesn't want to talk about a future at all. He said I have to show him some proof. And he said he doesn't want it to be his.

Take a break for awhile. Wait for things to die down. Hopefully he will grow up and accept responsibility!

I highly doubt that if he is not talking to you that he is even considering getting married or even would. It sounds to me like he is not ready for this and may even possibly not believe he could be the father. Depending on how long it has been now, he may even have moved on.

It is time to face the facts, you will most likely and at this time are going to be a single mom. It does not have to be hard, unless you choose to make it that way. There are programs that can help if you have no insurance and there are also programs to help you prove who the father is so that you can get help financially to care for the child.

Do not spend any more time on him, take care of you and the baby right now that is the most important thing.

You know what, you are both young. He wouldn't even be in his right mind to not be freaked out. Not that his reaction is honorable, it is in fact downright despicable. But this is a huuuge life changing event.

The law disagrees with me, but I think if a man should have the right to opt out of parenthood (if he isn't a cereal impregnator) the same way a mother can put a child up for adoption. The father should have some similar rights. This is something noone agrees with me about really.

I see you havent' been on in a while Chelsea. I hope things are going alright for you.

I still believe it is very important for a baby to have a strong home based on a stable marriage. I hope you two did finally marry.