LoveMaGirl

My sister this week (she has no kids) demanded that she take my daughter for the day, alone. My sister hasn't spoken to me in months.

She has only seen my daughter twice since Christmas last, and one of those times was when she (my sister) came to pick up her birthday presents that I'd bought her. Well when she let my daughter down (for the seventh time) by choosing to work overtime rather than come to her birthday party, I said enough is enough, I won't let her keep doing this.

When I said no, she can't take her as she is a virtual stranger to her (they haven't spoken at all since Christmas, and only visited once, plus a fifteen minute fly-by) and she is four. My sister blew up, said she wants her alone because she won't have me around because I let her down when I was disappointed in her letting my daughter down. I mean come on-she hurts my daughter and I'm not even allowed to feel let down?!?! And now I'm the bad guy and she won't tolerate me being around but expects me to send my daughter alone for a full day, but she won't tell me where she wants to go or what she wants to do.

Incidentally my daughter is biracial and her husband is racist. So.

This is a nasty big mess and I cannot believe she is so out of touch with reality. My daughter won't even stay with her grandparents for long periods of time (over a couple of hours) without pining for me, asking about me, trying to find me, and we all live together. Yet I'm supposed to let her go with a stranger.

It makes me so mad, and now my sister has blocked me on the social networks.

Have you ever had to deal with family who just haven't got a clue?

Lauren_3354

She is definately being unreasonable. This is unbelievable. Especially the part of wanting time alone with her when she doesn't know her at all and her husband being a racist is not the best either. You are right in wanting to protect your child. If she wants to see her, she needs to do it under your terms. You are the mother after all.

Arial

I think your sister is being selfish. If she was thinking about your daughter she would realize that it isn't right to ask for alone time with a four year old who barely knows her. Why would she want to subject your daughter to possible anxiety? She's just going to have to get over it. Sisters are important, but daughters come first in my book.

rose

I have a friend going through something similar. The Mother is a MIL and she was trying to be nice and plan an awesome outing for the DIL who had no plans for the kids birthday, they all agreed to a great themed place then last minute after the father canceled his over time with work, the DIL canceled and said no to it all. No reason at all, family is sometimes weird.

OliviaT

I don't blame you for how you feel, I would feel the same way. My sister thankfully visits us quite frequently and we get along very well. I don't know what I would do without my family.

LoveMaGirl

I don't quite know where we will go with this in future, but she has blocked me on Facebook now and is completely cutting me out. The woman is unreal.

Arial

I also have to add that she is being very immature. She blocked you on Facebook - who does that over something like this? I think she has some growing up to do.