seekerladyblue

You've had a rough day. You've been running all over town, ran errands, took the baby to the Dr. went grocery shopping, picked up the toys, made dinner, did bath time and now you're ready to drop. What do you do for Mom Time?

On the weekends, when I knew dad was going to be home, I would ask him to take care of the kids on Saturday morning because I was going to sleep in. When I got up, I would take a long, leasurily bath with lots of bubbles with my favorite fragrance and just soak out all the stress and tension from the week. I had my favorite book to read, my fluffy towel ready to go and the bathroom door shut!

There were sometimes when I can remember sneaking down the steps because I wasn't quite ready to meet the chaos I new was waiting...lol

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DCMerkle

That's nice that hubby would do that. I always would always like to read before the kids got home from school. I would lite some insense, put on a lite, classic rock station on the radio and read for about an hour.

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Lily

My life has been pretty hectic lately and there aren't even children involved yet. I can imagine what it'll be once we're finally parents. Right now, just dealing with two sick dogs and a husband that seems to be working a hundred hours a week is overwhelming. I have one dog with cancer and another dog who's kidneys are beginning to fail. They've both had surgery in the last month, one of them twice in the last month. They're demanding food, water, attention, and frequent outdoor breaks. They're now on 2 different dog foods that I have to keep straight. The shepard is on 2 different medications, the spaniel is on 4... I have to do those too. I have to think of creative dinners that can be cooked on top of the stove because my oven stopped working last month. I'm still depressed over losing my cousin, and now my husband is working 7 days a week, anywhere between 8 and 11 hours a day. He comes home tired (and a little crabby), and it's probably a good thing that babies haven't happened yet. Maybe stuff will be better if/when we finally make a baby. When he gets home, and dinner is over, and he can keep an eye on the dogs... I usually go sit in the shower and cry for awhile. Those few minutes to myself help... even though they seem to give me time to just think about sad stuff.

MuseMom

Animals can be just like having children. They take up just as much time, if not more, just the same as children can. Sounds like you have some "special needs" pets there. You are going through what any mother would be going through if you had children that needed more than the standard attention.

Hubby and you must have been together for quite awile now, so I'm guessing that you both know each others ups and downs. Problems like what you are going through now are like rubber balls. They bounce so, you and your hubby will bounce back happy. Just give it some time.

MuseMom

Lily

Yes, I have special needs pets. Well, not so much the shepard... she's been healthy til now (aside from arthritis). But, this kidney thing can only get worse. We'll do the best we can for her for whatever time she has left with us. She's already 9 which is old for a big dog. Our spaniel mix has had one health issue after another for as long as we've had him. We've been married almost 10 years and my husband had this dog for 2 years before we got married. He's always had an extremely sensitive stomach, and spend his first few years throwing up almost on a daily basis. He seemed to be not as bad after we got married and he came to live in Michigan. Still, it was at least a couple of times a week. Only within the last couple of years was he diagnosed with an ulcer. Now he takes medication and rarely throws up anymore. A couple of years ago he started having seizures, he's on medication for that and hasn't had a seizure in quite awhile. Last year, he had a spinal chord injury and lost the use of his back legs for months. We kept him in a crib, took him outside with 2 leashes (one rigged up to support his back end) and eventually he got back to normal (although he does run sideways now). And now the cancer. We hope they got it all. My baby is 12 years old already, and logic says it's not gonna be much longer for him. But who uses logic?? He still plays with toys and acts like a puppy. If he doesn't know he's old, I'm not gonna be the one to tell him. I'd love to see him in Guiness book under "world's oldest dog". I'm attached, very attached. These are my babies.... and they could end up being my only babies.

Like I said, my husband and I have been married almost 10 years. (You'd think a baby would've shown up by now huh?) We know each other's moods, although we still ask "are you mad at me?" when one of us is moody. I think we're just looking for a way to cheer each other up, and if it's as simple as an apology for something we weren't aware we'd done... we're willing to do that. Right now, my husband seems to be asking me that a lot. That's why I try not to let him see me cry.

kiico

I am lucky, we have tons of people that always want to watch the new baby boy. I have been out afew times with my friends, and about 2 times with my mom - its nice to be able to go out with her and rant about "mom stuff" now. I feel quite blessed.

alexis

My Mom time is far and few between. I get afew minutes here and there to pop online to do things like this, but real mom time.

I am either: showering, driving (alone) or sleeping.

Thats about all, good thing I'm a fairly simple person to start with. I enjoy the driving the most, I will be doing afew errands this evening, taking the new car, husbands CC and going away for abit. Leave little one with him and have maybe an hour to spend to myself.

llnourse

I wish I knew what "me" time was. I'm one of those mothers who just can't let go. I don't trust anyone for more than 5 minutes with my 15 month old son. I know I sound nuts, but I am terrified that he's going to get hurt or cry and want mommie and I'm not there for him. Any tips to get beyond this. I want desperately to involve him in groups. I was going to join MOPS at our church, but I can't bring myself to leaving him for 2 hours (with strangers) so I can have some adult conversation with other women.

Also, practically, I need to go back to work but break down in tears every time I think of putting him in daycare. What if he needs me??????
I'm been trying to find "legitimate" work from home but that's impossible.
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