crisbaby

I've been married for 6 years. My wife had a heart problem and she could not be able to concieved anymore. I am having problem with my daughter co'z she is asking us to have another kid in our house. She is jealous to her friends co'z they could play with their sisters in their home. What do you think the best thing to do to make her busy?

stuffabunny

Remind her that siblings break your things, you have to share at holidays (less Christmas presents) or maybe see if you could borrow one of her friends siblings for a day or a weekend. Most kids don't appreciate having siblings until they are grown up and out of the house. Until then its about competing for resources monetarily and attention wise. Having someone use her stuff or getting the best looking piece of chicken might sway her against siblings. I know I wanted a sibling when I was younger, but looking back its nice to not have to compete for attention.

crisbaby

Yeah, your right! I think I am going to buy her something that is nice to keep her busy like buying her a pet. She likes cat's, she usually get kitten's from our neighbor's and kept it in our house. But, I am scared she might got sick or lungs problem when she inhaled the cat's hair accidentally.

3littlecuties

There have been studies that show that children who lives in homes with pets are actually healthier and less likely to develop asthma and allergies than otherwise. This presumes she doesn't already have an allergy of course.

If you have no reason to suspect she has any health problems, I think a cat would be a wonderful pet, and will not cause her problems. Cats are nice pets in a home with young children because they are pretty independant. They don't have to be walked, they use a litter box. Very fun!

Good Parent

As a single child myself, I can speak first hand about how lonely you may feel at times...especially when you are still a child.

One suggestion would be adoptions if you think that you could handle that, and if not... just try to spend as much time with your daughter as possible, and make sure she feels wanted.


Also there is pet adoption, and that may work as well. Getting a cat or a dog just may be what your daughter needs.

alexis

Good Parent I am with you on that. I am the youngest of a six child blended family, want to hear my confusion? From my mother, she had three girls (two different fathers), from my father there are 3 girls (counting me) and 1 boy (with 3 different moms). All are older so when I was about 2 years the youngest left the home, I grew up with siblings but as an only child. If I didnt have my cat I would have gone bonkers!

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Good Parent

Yeah, that had to be difficult as well!

You weren't an only child, but it still ended up feeling that way most of the time.

Having some company like cats is definitely a good thing for kids in situations like yours or mine.

Also, the parents really need to spend as much time with you as well though.

misty

I support the adoption idea if it is something you want to do. You could also foster a child in your home perhaps on weekends to begin with, so you will see how well she copes.