rose

My mother always gave me a verbal beating for not being married before my first was born, but the entire reason was since she wouldn't let me get married a year before I turned 18. I was always reasonable with school, straight A's, always did my work at home and when I started my job, but thats the one thing she held over my head and never let me forget, like I could. How many are unwed?

Sabre's grandma

I'm married, but our daughter is a single mom (six month old). As a mother I wouldn't give a child a beating about it, but of course 'in a perfect world' you would have prince charming as a husband first! ha ha...we all know there arent' many out there. Try not to let it hurt you, you are in good company.

babymomma

I haven't had my own child yet, but I am a foster mother to a baby girl. I'm hoping to get pregnant after my wedding which is in the summer, my foster daughter wants a little brother.

Nana Lori

'beating someone up' about this is what my daddy would've called, 'shutting the barn door after the horse got out'... did not the birth of your child calm this or is she still having trouble with it? Generally once that grand baby is in a grandma's arms all is forgotten.

alexis

I was not married for either, but neither were one night flings. Which is what some people always think when a women is unmarried. Times have changed. I was with my sons father for 3 years, and I have been with my girls father for almost four now.

kkk3

I was actually married for 6 years before having a baby. We weren't trying to conceive before then, we had other things we needed to get done before we brought children into the picture.

frumpyhousewife76

I was married before having mine but it wasn't for lack of trying. I can't imagine someone continuing to verbally bait you afterwards. Thats just silly. Especially when you have given her a precious grandchild.

babydoll

I will have a baby only when I will be married. I know that a kid that was born out of wedlock doesn't have to be unhappy (so many nice examples in life and even this nice community), but I was an illegitimate kid and it wasn't pretty. My mother decided to marry another guy 3 weeks before I got born and this sent all the situation in a legislative hell. They fought in the court for 4-5 years and all this time I was in an orphanage. If she waited 3 weeks, I would have been with my father .. her marriage kinda messed it up .. you can understand why I wouldn't give birth unless me and the guy were married

InnocentMe

I don't have a child of my own yet but I wouldn't wanted a child out of marriage. I got nothing against couples that have babies before marriage. I just wanted to have no problems so it is better to have a baby after marriage.

newmommy

Married. My parents are rather strict and conservative so I was pushed to marriage at the instant they knew I was up to something rather serious. Lol!