Hello Everyone, this is my first post to this forum, but not new to forums, I'm a member to a couple of diffrent ones for health problems. Well to start off, I am the mother of two beautiful children ages 7 and 9 years. Well I am writing to ask for your guy's opinions. Their's this girl staying with my neighbors who's 20 years old, single, and 6 months pregnant. Well she's spent many years in the mental hospital, is basically homeless except for the family and friends who are letting her stay with them. She started having contractions a few weeks ago and went the ER and they told her it was braxtons and she got mad at them and started throwing things at the nurse and cussing at them. She literally carries around a diaper bag full of diapers in case she goes into labor. Well I told her that the hospital gives you diapers while your in the hospital and a diper bag full of things for the baby, and if this baby is born 3 months prematurally, the baby wouldnt come home for a while so their's no reason for her to carry this stuff around with her, she takes it to the store, on the bus, outside to smoke.....She's then informed me that they cant KEEP her baby, and I told her that if the baby is born that early, why wouldn't she want NICU to help her baby. And now she's going on that she wants a c-section cause she's addicted to surgeries. I told her that she should think about what's safe for the baby and not what's a easy for herself, and she got mad at me. I personally think it's terrible to have a c-sec just for no reason but to make the mother happy, and that c-secs should be left for people who need them cause it would save the mother and/or baby. I just dont think she's mentally ready for this baby, it really scares me. I know if shouldnt be any of my bussiness, but the more she tells me things, the more I lose sleep over it. I do voluntary work for cps (casa), so it makes me more worried then usual. This girl has spent years in mental facilities for trying to kill herself as recently as a few months ago, she has no money, job, home. The boyfriend (baby's father) beats her so she's always in and out of domesic violence shelters. Somebody bought her a stroller/carseat set, and besides that and a diaper bag full of like 30 diapers and one baby shirt, she has nothing else. Do you guys think the hospital will do anything before she leaves with the baby to make sure the baby is going to be safe? I dont remember anything the hospital did too much cause I guess they knew my babies where safe cause I had a home and was able to mentally and finacially able to take care of my kids, but I dont know if "background" checks are something they do. I sure hope they do, especially since she attacked the nurse, that right there should be a hint of what kind of person she is. I really am worried with her mental problems that she will get postpartum depression and do something horrible, please give me any advise on what you guys think I should do, even if that means stepping back, I just dont wanna step back and tell people htis story and get asked why I didnt say or do anything, and even if their is anything I can do, like call cps when the baby is born??? thank you for listening!!!
MakaylahsMommy
